tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post1427480650417103557..comments2023-05-09T03:59:07.158-04:00Comments on Parenting Perspectives - Elinor Bashe, Psy.D.: Tweens and CyberbullyingElinor Bashe, Psy.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/08708847444591207203noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post-73058060562050707042012-09-08T05:34:37.942-04:002012-09-08T05:34:37.942-04:00Its all up to parent monitoring if they do then al...Its all up to parent monitoring if they do then all the things are perfect and safe and if they don't then its a sign of trouble.<br /><a href="http://www.minormonitor.com/" rel="nofollow">Internet safety for kids</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17530237470333540606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post-10679770592623552572010-07-20T01:53:16.284-04:002010-07-20T01:53:16.284-04:00Thank you Elinor for a wealth of information! I do...Thank you Elinor for a wealth of information! I don't think there can ever be enough warning about the terrible effects of cyber bullying. I DO remember the cold chill of seeing a spiral notebook passed around my classroom and realizing that there was yet another slambook to dread! So cruel... <br />I look forward to reading more from you!!! Thank you!Joyce Campananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post-82007400855878463332010-05-17T00:37:20.832-04:002010-05-17T00:37:20.832-04:00I have been visiting various blogs for my term pap...I have been visiting various blogs for my term papers writing research. I have found your blog to be quite useful. Keep updating your blog with valuable information... RegardsTerm Papershttp://www.usatermpapers.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post-87886481622152063092010-05-06T10:47:36.973-04:002010-05-06T10:47:36.973-04:00I totally agree, Elinor. The impact that the cybe...I totally agree, Elinor. The impact that the cyberbullying can have on a preteen's developing sense-of-self and not yet fully developed coping resources can be devastating! In addition, cyberbullying really does take the meanness to a whole new level, one that is far more public and humiliating than ever before. Thanks for the well-written and informative blog!!Deborah Kaplannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post-91591474142933348392010-05-05T15:30:56.210-04:002010-05-05T15:30:56.210-04:00Thanks for drawing our attention to an important a...Thanks for drawing our attention to an important and growing problem.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2962421705766607937.post-7995703085880994442010-05-05T08:19:27.778-04:002010-05-05T08:19:27.778-04:00Hi Elinor, I don't hesitate to tell my kids th...Hi Elinor, I don't hesitate to tell my kids that we'll randomly check their phones and email accounts to ensure that they're not being bullied, approached by strangers, or using the technology inappropriately. And we make it clear it's for their safety--they've all heard tales in the schools' anti-bullying programs about what can go wrong. It seems to work. An early heads-up lets them know that you're doing so for their safety, and if you do find something alarming, then they're not surprised that you've been checking. I did so more in the early days of their use, far less so now, but if one of them seems to be abnormally moody, then I check. That worked well recently, when one was being obsessively texted by a friend with a romantic interest who was very manipulative. I was offended myself by the obsessive nature of the texting--there were no curse words, nothing obscene, but the texter was psychologically manipulative--and told my child I thought the kid wasn't nice, even though the kid is highly intelligent and involved in some of the same activities. I think my kid was relieved--I didn't get any complaint about the fact that I'd checked the phone--and it gave us the space to talk about it. The creep stopped.<br /><br />My main takeway: Don't spend too much time checking--it's not a world you want to relive!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com